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Ore Oduba

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577 total appearances

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On The Mend
Ore Oduba on His Hidden Porn Addiction, Stigma and Shame

They're going to come across it.

On The Mend
Ore Oduba on His Hidden Porn Addiction, Stigma and Shame

It's just one of the...

On The Mend
Ore Oduba on His Hidden Porn Addiction, Stigma and Shame

harms that come as a side effect of living life through a digital lens.

On The Mend
Ore Oduba on His Hidden Porn Addiction, Stigma and Shame

You know, I think that is one of the huge things, Matt, that we've got to understand that when primarily we're looking at our lives and interact with other human beings through devices, that there are harms that come to that, whether it is addiction or whether it is that, you know, the lack of friction in relationships because people are looking to create relationships, synthetic relationships.

On The Mend
Ore Oduba on His Hidden Porn Addiction, Stigma and Shame

People are looking to create synthetic relationships with chatbots or, you know, even don't get me started on dating apps.

On The Mend
Ore Oduba on His Hidden Porn Addiction, Stigma and Shame

I was on a dating app for about three weeks before I went.

On The Mend
Ore Oduba on His Hidden Porn Addiction, Stigma and Shame

This is the worst.

On The Mend
Ore Oduba on His Hidden Porn Addiction, Stigma and Shame

Not to say that people can't, but I think in the last few years from what I've inherited, what I've heard from friends,

On The Mend
Ore Oduba on His Hidden Porn Addiction, Stigma and Shame

Again, another addictive model.

On The Mend
Ore Oduba on His Hidden Porn Addiction, Stigma and Shame

The swipe is another dopamine hit.

On The Mend
Ore Oduba on His Hidden Porn Addiction, Stigma and Shame

And I think doing that over time, you stop looking for the thing that you thought you were signing up to before.

On The Mend
Ore Oduba on His Hidden Porn Addiction, Stigma and Shame

You're looking just for the hit.

On The Mend
Ore Oduba on His Hidden Porn Addiction, Stigma and Shame

And then again, you think you get that blurred reality because anonymously you can hide behind a profile, you can hide behind a character, and then you can start hurling troll abuse to other people, likely to other women on these platforms and get away with it.

On The Mend
Ore Oduba on His Hidden Porn Addiction, Stigma and Shame

There's no policing.

On The Mend
Ore Oduba on His Hidden Porn Addiction, Stigma and Shame

There's no intervention.

On The Mend
Ore Oduba on His Hidden Porn Addiction, Stigma and Shame

And people are doing that.

On The Mend
Ore Oduba on His Hidden Porn Addiction, Stigma and Shame

I think of the amount of girlfriends that have talked to me about, they're just terrified.

On The Mend
Ore Oduba on His Hidden Porn Addiction, Stigma and Shame

They are just terrified of men.

On The Mend
Ore Oduba on His Hidden Porn Addiction, Stigma and Shame

And a lot of these platforms, it just harbors a lot of this activity.

On The Mend
Ore Oduba on His Hidden Porn Addiction, Stigma and Shame

So yeah, it is one of the greatest harms that I think come as looking at life through a digital lens like this.