Owen Gregorian

Welcome.

I certainly echo all that.

Having been in the military but never being deployed somewhere, I certainly felt it when I saw that my unit was deployed to Iraq and Afghanistan multiple times.

It's always a risk.

It's always a danger.

And it's certainly a heroic and very brave thing to serve.

And I just, what I took away from it more than anything else was just a sense of gratitude for all the men and women that serve, that protect us and keep us safe and do the fighting so that we don't have to.

So toxic people in your life.

That's good.

It was in Psychology Today.

Leanne Ten Brink was talking about this.

And I suppose it adds something in the sense of what if you can't just cut someone out of your life?

I do think that's probably the best solution in almost all cases.

And I try to do that myself.

um i probably have more flexibility than some people though because like i work for this big consulting firm and i've worked for big consulting firms most of my career and that's where you kind of float around between teams you don't have to stay with the same people all the time so you can have different bosses and different co-workers every time and every project and so i i definitely have had a policy of if someone's toxic i'm just not going to work with them again and i'll make sure that that happens and you know but if you're the low person on the totem pole you might be not be able to do that

Um, if you're in a different type of job where you have a toxic boss, you know, you might just be stuck for a while, at least until you get another job.

But, um, what the, the three pieces of advice that, that this person offers is number one, to set clear boundaries that they mentioned people who are normal.

might not need clear boundaries because they kind of know not to violate, you know, your boundaries, but someone with these toxic traits might not, might need more clear and explicit boundaries.

And it's basically advising you to kind of train the person, like say, these are my boundaries.

You can't do this and then enforce it.