Owen Gregorian

that triggers them again.

Yeah.

And they, but it, it often sets them off and it just makes them look so foolish and emotional and you win, you know, you win the argument.

And I've had this in my professional life too, where somebody sent me this long rambling email and I just sent him a one line reply.

And then he sent me the another long rambling, like just, he was so upset and it was just kind of funny to watch how you can set somebody off and it makes them look so foolish.

But I mean, that in itself I see as a reframe because it puts you in the dominant position.

Like it makes you seem like the authority figure where you're kind of gracing them with a few words, but you're not engaging in the whole, you know, argument at the top of your lungs thing.

And when they keep going on and on and on, it just again, it just makes them seem weak and emotional and like they've just totally lost control.

Owen, when, when they write a lot to you, I don't know, just like a verbal rant, just, you know, vomit, vomit, verbal vomit.

Yeah.

No, I was just going to say, I just, I would say like, this is kind of an art form.

It is a skill.

It's not like there's any hard and fast rules.

It'll always work in every situation.

And you know, in many cases it is better to just block and move on and not engage.

And the other technique that I learned over the years that is very effective and kind of in a surprising way is sometimes when someone insults you, uh, if you compliment them back,

it totally disarms them because they realize they're, they were being the asshole.

And if they keep going, they're going to look even more like the asshole.

So they can't like they, they literally can't follow up because you just complimented them on something.

Like I had a project, a crypto project where, you know, people who are familiar with that space would know there's all this rivalry and people would be like, well, my project's better than your project.