Patrick Collins

Yeah, and God knows what mood, Nicola.

You know, and I had spoken years later to the parish priest in Killala.

And he's passed away now since.

And he said, oh, yeah, like she was betwixt and between.

And she was asking for his advice.

And he said, well, look, I would never sway you, Sandra.

Your decision is your decision.

But he just felt that it wasn't a good environment, in his opinion.

He wasn't...

swaying her he was telling her what he thought and he said like she's she's your baby and ultimately the decision has to be yours yeah and he said like he had great time for Sandra my aunt not so much so

Yeah, and it was Bridie's birthday as well, sadly.

And we had a habit in our house because there's three birthdays in December.

So Bridie's is the third and then Sandra's is the 14th and Ivan's, who we found the tape in his house, he's the 15th, so the very next day.

December's quite a busy, busy birthday month in our house.

But we had a habit of signing everyone's birthday cards together in our house.

So we signed them anyway and my mother kind of said to her, make sure now you bring your birthday cards with you, Sandra.

And, you know, she said, oh sure, I can get them again.

You know, she wasn't really making a big deal about them.

But I'm glad she did bring them because after she got missing when I went down, the birthday cards were in the dressing table in the bedroom.

So I suppose we have the comfort at least she got to see her birthday cards.