Patton Oswalt

You're not recovering to make them feel comfortable. You have to live whatever life is being put in front of you. And I met this person. genuinely extraordinary woman that I don't think I would have realized is as extraordinary as she is if I hadn't been in love with and spent all those years with Michelle to really show me what extraordinary in a person means, you know?

You're not recovering to make them feel comfortable. You have to live whatever life is being put in front of you. And I met this person. genuinely extraordinary woman that I don't think I would have realized is as extraordinary as she is if I hadn't been in love with and spent all those years with Michelle to really show me what extraordinary in a person means, you know?

So there was almost like that was the gift from her. That was the one gift was losing her, having that torn away from me so horribly. But in a way, the tearing away burned the memory of what a truly amazing person looks and feels and acts like. And I was able to recognize it when it came around again.

So there was almost like that was the gift from her. That was the one gift was losing her, having that torn away from me so horribly. But in a way, the tearing away burned the memory of what a truly amazing person looks and feels and acts like. And I was able to recognize it when it came around again.

I felt numb for like half a year, just nothing. And before that were a couple of months of just, you know, April, April, May, most, some of June was just, it's not pain, it's, C.S. Lewis put this so well, grief feels like terror. I was in terror 24 hours a day. I was terrified of everything. Terror. And then, so that's why I was so happy to hit numbness. And I was like, I'll live here forever.

I felt numb for like half a year, just nothing. And before that were a couple of months of just, you know, April, April, May, most, some of June was just, it's not pain, it's, C.S. Lewis put this so well, grief feels like terror. I was in terror 24 hours a day. I was terrified of everything. Terror. And then, so that's why I was so happy to hit numbness. And I was like, I'll live here forever.

I'll take numbness over terror. And then it just turned into meeting someone who I was not, again, I wasn't, it was just, it was a weird, we had friends in common. I didn't know who she was, but we have a friend in common, this actress, Martha Plimpton. And my wife, Meredith Salander, they've been friends since they were teenagers, you know, like acting. They were both child actors.

I'll take numbness over terror. And then it just turned into meeting someone who I was not, again, I wasn't, it was just, it was a weird, we had friends in common. I didn't know who she was, but we have a friend in common, this actress, Martha Plimpton. And my wife, Meredith Salander, they've been friends since they were teenagers, you know, like acting. They were both child actors.

And so Martha would do these dinners where she would gather various people, different people just to bring them together and just have a salon. Everyone just talks and meets. And so I was invited to one and I didn't, I was traveling or something. And then Meredith like posted or she messaged me and said, you know, that was, you missed the best fucking lasagna, dude.

And so Martha would do these dinners where she would gather various people, different people just to bring them together and just have a salon. Everyone just talks and meets. And so I was invited to one and I didn't, I was traveling or something. And then Meredith like posted or she messaged me and said, you know, that was, you missed the best fucking lasagna, dude.

And then I just said, ah, story of my life. Maybe we'll go to Arby's or something. Like, just joking. And then we would just, this is all on Facebook, just messaging back and forth for like three months. Just, we never spoke on the phone, never met in person. It was just somebody at the end of the day that I could talk to in the dark, lying in bed, which is what I would do with Michelle.

And then I just said, ah, story of my life. Maybe we'll go to Arby's or something. Like, just joking. And then we would just, this is all on Facebook, just messaging back and forth for like three months. Just, we never spoke on the phone, never met in person. It was just somebody at the end of the day that I could talk to in the dark, lying in bed, which is what I would do with Michelle.

We'd just lie there and just talk in the dark and go about our day. And go over our day and go over the world. And it was just... And then that, without it becoming romantic or anything, it then became romantic. Just having someone to talk to and then it turned into... And then we finally... God, I don't, we didn't meet face to face till May 20th.

We'd just lie there and just talk in the dark and go about our day. And go over our day and go over the world. And it was just... And then that, without it becoming romantic or anything, it then became romantic. Just having someone to talk to and then it turned into... And then we finally... God, I don't, we didn't meet face to face till May 20th.

And we started talking, texting on Facebook at the end of February. And it was just, and there was a time where like, maybe we just should never meet. Let's just talk like this. And then we was like, oh no, we should meet. And then that's just how it went.

And we started talking, texting on Facebook at the end of February. And it was just, and there was a time where like, maybe we just should never meet. Let's just talk like this. And then we was like, oh no, we should meet. And then that's just how it went.

Yeah, you hide the terror in front of your kid. Your kid can't see you crying and having panic attacks. So it was very much like a performance of getting up, making sure her breakfast is made, lay out her clothes the night before, get her to school. She immediately wanted to go back to school because she wanted normalcy. I understand that. And my counselor was like,

Yeah, you hide the terror in front of your kid. Your kid can't see you crying and having panic attacks. So it was very much like a performance of getting up, making sure her breakfast is made, lay out her clothes the night before, get her to school. She immediately wanted to go back to school because she wanted normalcy. I understand that. And my counselor was like,

Whatever she wants, let her lead the way. If she doesn't want to go back to school for three months, she just shouldn't go back to school. If she wants to go back Monday morning, take her back to school. So it was very much like me. And then I would drop her off at her school and then I would park on the street outside the school and just sit there until three o'clock.

Whatever she wants, let her lead the way. If she doesn't want to go back to school for three months, she just shouldn't go back to school. If she wants to go back Monday morning, take her back to school. So it was very much like me. And then I would drop her off at her school and then I would park on the street outside the school and just sit there until three o'clock.