Paul Brunson

I think that's at the core of it.

I think that's at the core of it.

Because you know what's so interesting to me is that you're already going to, well, how do I get out of this?

Because you know what's so interesting to me is that you're already going to, well, how do I get out of this?

Yeah.

Yeah.

Right? And it almost feels as if there is a fear of committing to someone for the rest of your life. Yeah. Because that's a massive. I mean, think about this. you're going to commit to someone for the rest of your life, for the rest of your days. And what we feel, because I've been there, because when I... I'm getting anxiety as you say it. I'm like, fucking hell, the rest of my life.

Right? And it almost feels as if there is a fear of committing to someone for the rest of your life. Yeah. Because that's a massive. I mean, think about this. you're going to commit to someone for the rest of your life, for the rest of your days. And what we feel, because I've been there, because when I... I'm getting anxiety as you say it. I'm like, fucking hell, the rest of my life.

The rest of your life. But think about this. The anxiety is the fear of what has not even come yet. So that means that you can now interrogate your thoughts. Okay, you have fear over what? What's the fear?

The rest of your life. But think about this. The anxiety is the fear of what has not even come yet. So that means that you can now interrogate your thoughts. Okay, you have fear over what? What's the fear?

But isn't it just a terrible idea to commit to someone till death do you part? Because imagine if I said to you, you've got to pick a job and then you've got to do it forever. Yes. The amount of procrastination that would occur because of the significance of that decision would basically stop you picking any job at all because you'd be like, I've got to pick one and do it forever.

But isn't it just a terrible idea to commit to someone till death do you part? Because imagine if I said to you, you've got to pick a job and then you've got to do it forever. Yes. The amount of procrastination that would occur because of the significance of that decision would basically stop you picking any job at all because you'd be like, I've got to pick one and do it forever.

You'd become a perfectionist. You'd be looking for perfection in every single job. And maybe this is in part the issue is that Because we see marriage as being such a final thing that we really have to make sure the pick is perfect.

You'd become a perfectionist. You'd be looking for perfection in every single job. And maybe this is in part the issue is that Because we see marriage as being such a final thing that we really have to make sure the pick is perfect.

It's perfect. I agree. This is one of the myths, right? This whole notion of till death do us part, which really was handed to us in religion. If you look through Christianity, Hinduism, even a lot of the modern day Islamic traditions,

It's perfect. I agree. This is one of the myths, right? This whole notion of till death do us part, which really was handed to us in religion. If you look through Christianity, Hinduism, even a lot of the modern day Islamic traditions,

marriage ceremonies there's some formation of you will be with this partner for the rest of your life and i think what that does is it actually sets us up for a lower level of satisfaction it sets us up for complacency oh this is all we get right it instead they can't leave me they can't leave me so therefore i don't have to try as hard i don't even have to talk to them now yeah i don't have to get to the gym no i can just sit here like so

marriage ceremonies there's some formation of you will be with this partner for the rest of your life and i think what that does is it actually sets us up for a lower level of satisfaction it sets us up for complacency oh this is all we get right it instead they can't leave me they can't leave me so therefore i don't have to try as hard i don't even have to talk to them now yeah i don't have to get to the gym no i can just sit here like so

That is a myth, though, because we know where divorce rates are, separation rates are. We know that there are – you can get a divorce. So you can get out. She can get out. We have to put that to the side. But the key is to think about when I was like interrogate the fears is, well, what's the upside? What's the upside of having a partner for life?

That is a myth, though, because we know where divorce rates are, separation rates are. We know that there are – you can get a divorce. So you can get out. She can get out. We have to put that to the side. But the key is to think about when I was like interrogate the fears is, well, what's the upside? What's the upside of having a partner for life?