Paul Brunson

I think that's the key. And I think... the awareness comes from confronting both realities, which is on one hand, there are some evolutionary things that are going to make me have a bias towards a certain type of person that has certain attributes, even if those attributes are actually not going to lead to a long-term healthy relationship, like fuckboys.

I think that's the key. And I think... the awareness comes from confronting both realities, which is on one hand, there are some evolutionary things that are going to make me have a bias towards a certain type of person that has certain attributes, even if those attributes are actually not going to lead to a long-term healthy relationship, like fuckboys.

Like charisma and bravado and confidence is like somewhat attractive, but it might not be a great husband. And then on the other hand, there is tons of things society has handed me through magazines and media that have portrayed an image of what beauty looks like that are also just bullshit. I think understanding both is the key to that sort of autonomy.

Like charisma and bravado and confidence is like somewhat attractive, but it might not be a great husband. And then on the other hand, there is tons of things society has handed me through magazines and media that have portrayed an image of what beauty looks like that are also just bullshit. I think understanding both is the key to that sort of autonomy.

Being able to say, actually, I understand where that's coming from in me, but I will make a rational prefrontal cortex decision to select something else. Some evidence of this, the evolutionary basis of attraction, comes in this idea that people who have symmetrical faces are more beautiful and more attractive across cultures. Is that true?

Being able to say, actually, I understand where that's coming from in me, but I will make a rational prefrontal cortex decision to select something else. Some evidence of this, the evolutionary basis of attraction, comes in this idea that people who have symmetrical faces are more beautiful and more attractive across cultures. Is that true?

Yes. So there are many scientists that will say absolutely. But here's one thing I know definitively about attraction is attraction to someone else is largely based on your self-esteem. And this is what I mean, is that the lower your self-esteem, the more dependent you are on the validation of the public. So therefore, you will want to have a partner who is considered to be attractive.

Yes. So there are many scientists that will say absolutely. But here's one thing I know definitively about attraction is attraction to someone else is largely based on your self-esteem. And this is what I mean, is that the lower your self-esteem, the more dependent you are on the validation of the public. So therefore, you will want to have a partner who is considered to be attractive.

So if society, if the script is that symmetry is it, or if the script is wearing... this type of trainer is it, if that's what society is saying, then if you have low self-esteem, you want a partner to look like that because you need the validation of the partner. However...

So if society, if the script is that symmetry is it, or if the script is wearing... this type of trainer is it, if that's what society is saying, then if you have low self-esteem, you want a partner to look like that because you need the validation of the partner. However...

Whenever you see, this is what I say, whenever you see someone who's walking around with a partner and you think, how did those two get together, right? Chances are there's an element, and remember, I'm not talking about one is super high income or one has super high status. I'm just talking about you look at a couple and you say, they look odd, right?

Whenever you see, this is what I say, whenever you see someone who's walking around with a partner and you think, how did those two get together, right? Chances are there's an element, and remember, I'm not talking about one is super high income or one has super high status. I'm just talking about you look at a couple and you say, they look odd, right?

One of them could be traditionally attractive. One of them might not. Normally what's happened is that you have someone with high self-esteem who has no need for the public's validation of their partner at all.

One of them could be traditionally attractive. One of them might not. Normally what's happened is that you have someone with high self-esteem who has no need for the public's validation of their partner at all.

I don't think people talk about this enough, but it's so unbelievably true. In fact, I know an individual who... has a historically low self-esteem and went through a lot of stuff when they were younger. And I remember when they got into a relationship, I remember exactly where I stood in London.

I don't think people talk about this enough, but it's so unbelievably true. In fact, I know an individual who... has a historically low self-esteem and went through a lot of stuff when they were younger. And I remember when they got into a relationship, I remember exactly where I stood in London.

I remember the time of day when they turned to me, they just got into a relationship, someone with a historically low self-esteem. And they said to me, Steve, I really like her, but I'm kind of worried. This is an exact quote. I'm kind of worried. Like if I walk into a restaurant with her on my arm, is it going to be a good look?

I remember the time of day when they turned to me, they just got into a relationship, someone with a historically low self-esteem. And they said to me, Steve, I really like her, but I'm kind of worried. This is an exact quote. I'm kind of worried. Like if I walk into a restaurant with her on my arm, is it going to be a good look?

And I remember saying to this person, like, if that's the way you're assessing this person, based on how they'll look on your arm when you walk into a relationship, my God, this relationship is fucked. Because you're overlooking the actual things that matter, the most important things. And this person has gone from one relationship to the next, to the next, to the next, all of them failing.

And I remember saying to this person, like, if that's the way you're assessing this person, based on how they'll look on your arm when you walk into a relationship, my God, this relationship is fucked. Because you're overlooking the actual things that matter, the most important things. And this person has gone from one relationship to the next, to the next, to the next, all of them failing.