Paul Brunson

The best defense in any relationship in life is our wellbeing. It acts as a wall against all of the bad people in the world. And what it also does is it acts as a magnet for the great people in the world, because people with high well-being and high self-esteem tend to surround themselves and understand and even attract people with high well-being and high self-esteem.

The best defense in any relationship in life is our wellbeing. It acts as a wall against all of the bad people in the world. And what it also does is it acts as a magnet for the great people in the world, because people with high well-being and high self-esteem tend to surround themselves and understand and even attract people with high well-being and high self-esteem.

Okay, so two personal case studies popped to mind in my friendship group that I'm aware of, people that I'm aware of. They are approaching their 40s. Okay. They would both probably say that they had low self-esteem. They don't feel like they got the time, Paul. to figure out their self-esteem. Because in both situations, they're like, I need to find someone.

Okay, so two personal case studies popped to mind in my friendship group that I'm aware of, people that I'm aware of. They are approaching their 40s. Okay. They would both probably say that they had low self-esteem. They don't feel like they got the time, Paul. to figure out their self-esteem. Because in both situations, they're like, I need to find someone.

And they're in a bit of a rush, I'd say. One of them is a male, one of them is a female. Now, what would you say to both of those people? Approaching their 40s, feel like they're in a bit of a rush. One's sort of contending with a biological clock. The other just is contending with like social comparison. All of his friends are in relationships and settling down and he's still single.

And they're in a bit of a rush, I'd say. One of them is a male, one of them is a female. Now, what would you say to both of those people? Approaching their 40s, feel like they're in a bit of a rush. One's sort of contending with a biological clock. The other just is contending with like social comparison. All of his friends are in relationships and settling down and he's still single.

both fundamentally have low self-esteem. So the way that they're trying to solve this problem is they're trying to get blow dries to make themselves look pretty on the external to attract people in and dating as many people as they possibly can to try and find someone as soon as possible.

both fundamentally have low self-esteem. So the way that they're trying to solve this problem is they're trying to get blow dries to make themselves look pretty on the external to attract people in and dating as many people as they possibly can to try and find someone as soon as possible.

Yes. I would tell them, you haven't even lived half your life yet. You have plenty of time. Period. But I've got a biological clock over here. You know what? I understand that. But you know what's worse? You know what is incredibly sad is that I've seen a large percentage of people say, I have a biological clock. I want to have a child. So therefore, I'm just going to have a child with anyone.

Yes. I would tell them, you haven't even lived half your life yet. You have plenty of time. Period. But I've got a biological clock over here. You know what? I understand that. But you know what's worse? You know what is incredibly sad is that I've seen a large percentage of people say, I have a biological clock. I want to have a child. So therefore, I'm just going to have a child with anyone.

What happens? What happens? What ends up happening is it ends up becoming an incredibly difficult scenario to manage because you now are in a partnership with someone who you don't like, you don't feel safe with. There's no emotional connection. They create stress on you. They end up not being a parent to the child. That stress leads to other issues that you may have like autoimmune disease.

What happens? What happens? What ends up happening is it ends up becoming an incredibly difficult scenario to manage because you now are in a partnership with someone who you don't like, you don't feel safe with. There's no emotional connection. They create stress on you. They end up not being a parent to the child. That stress leads to other issues that you may have like autoimmune disease.

You end up not being able to show up as your best self for the child. The child sees this and they have a myriad of issues as a result of you wanting to beat your biological clock. I say this, I understand the desire to have children. I get it. I wanted, my wife and I tried for eight years. We went through IVF. You know, I get it. To this day, we still pay for our embryos to be frozen.

You end up not being able to show up as your best self for the child. The child sees this and they have a myriad of issues as a result of you wanting to beat your biological clock. I say this, I understand the desire to have children. I get it. I wanted, my wife and I tried for eight years. We went through IVF. You know, I get it. To this day, we still pay for our embryos to be frozen.

It's like, it's one of those where I understand the desire to have children. What age were you? Oh my God. It was probably 16 years ago. When we started IVF, we were early to IVF. And by the way, even before the 16 years, we had tried naturally to have a child. We went through one year of cycles, unsuccessful. We ended up losing a child, right? Devastating, absolutely devastating.

It's like, it's one of those where I understand the desire to have children. What age were you? Oh my God. It was probably 16 years ago. When we started IVF, we were early to IVF. And by the way, even before the 16 years, we had tried naturally to have a child. We went through one year of cycles, unsuccessful. We ended up losing a child, right? Devastating, absolutely devastating.

And then we then have a cycle that works, which is our first son, Kingston. And then we have a cycle that works fairly close after our second son, Liam. But one of the untold stories about IVF, and I wish people talked about this more, is that you may still have eight embryos, six embryos that are still viable. We have nine embryos that are still viable. And so what do you do?

And then we then have a cycle that works, which is our first son, Kingston. And then we have a cycle that works fairly close after our second son, Liam. But one of the untold stories about IVF, and I wish people talked about this more, is that you may still have eight embryos, six embryos that are still viable. We have nine embryos that are still viable. And so what do you do?

Some people will donate them to science. Some people will have them destroyed. But there's other folks like my wife and I that are thinking, you know, these are lives that we've created. Like, what are we going to do? And so we have paid. to store them. So every month since we began our cycles, we have paid to store them.

Some people will donate them to science. Some people will have them destroyed. But there's other folks like my wife and I that are thinking, you know, these are lives that we've created. Like, what are we going to do? And so we have paid. to store them. So every month since we began our cycles, we have paid to store them.