Paul Brunson

that 20% of us have higher satisfaction than we ever have in the history of relationships. And you think 20%, one is that's fairly small. And do they really have high satisfaction? And I fully believe this. And the reason why is because we have tools. You know, we have people who watch podcasts, read books, watch television shows. We have tools like we've never had before, more access to therapy.

that 20% of us have higher satisfaction than we ever have in the history of relationships. And you think 20%, one is that's fairly small. And do they really have high satisfaction? And I fully believe this. And the reason why is because we have tools. You know, we have people who watch podcasts, read books, watch television shows. We have tools like we've never had before, more access to therapy.

So 20%, very satisfying. but 80% more dissatisfied. more upset, more confused than ever before. And I would say that those who are not in relationships, the pool reflects that as well. I think there's a 20% of singles who are hopeful and are developing the tools and developing the skills and learning active listening and all these things.

So 20%, very satisfying. but 80% more dissatisfied. more upset, more confused than ever before. And I would say that those who are not in relationships, the pool reflects that as well. I think there's a 20% of singles who are hopeful and are developing the tools and developing the skills and learning active listening and all these things.

And they will, and they believe they'll enter strong relationships. They're very hopeful. But I think there's 80% out there that are perhaps hopeless, disgruntled, confused, dismayed. And I would say that that's the landscape today. That being said, the reason for that is because we, over the years, have placed more emphasis on one partner versus having a village to lean on.

And they will, and they believe they'll enter strong relationships. They're very hopeful. But I think there's 80% out there that are perhaps hopeless, disgruntled, confused, dismayed. And I would say that that's the landscape today. That being said, the reason for that is because we, over the years, have placed more emphasis on one partner versus having a village to lean on.

So we're leaning more. So we're requiring more from our partners. So what that means is that if we're requiring more, if we're requiring our partner to be, we want our partner to be our best friend. We all want to launch a business and be a CEO, right? So we want our partner to be co-CEO or COO. We want our partner to be a great parent.

So we're leaning more. So we're requiring more from our partners. So what that means is that if we're requiring more, if we're requiring our partner to be, we want our partner to be our best friend. We all want to launch a business and be a CEO, right? So we want our partner to be co-CEO or COO. We want our partner to be a great parent.

We want our partner to come home at night, take their clothes off, and do backflips in the bedroom, right? This is what we want. This is what we want. So we want now more. more from that one person versus 30 years ago, 300 years ago, 3,000 years ago, 300,000 years ago when humans really began, 300,000 years ago. So you look at all this and you say, wow, we want more.

We want our partner to come home at night, take their clothes off, and do backflips in the bedroom, right? This is what we want. This is what we want. So we want now more. more from that one person versus 30 years ago, 300 years ago, 3,000 years ago, 300,000 years ago when humans really began, 300,000 years ago. So you look at all this and you say, wow, we want more.

So therefore, we're going to have lower satisfaction. So this is what I believe the landscape is today.

So therefore, we're going to have lower satisfaction. So this is what I believe the landscape is today.

And if we start then with people that are looking for love, people that are in search of love, how are the current tools? Because I see so much online about how people are disenfranchised with things like dating apps and they've tried social media. And I've got so many of my friends who are struggling at the moment. They're going on 100 dates a year and they're unable to find anybody.

And if we start then with people that are looking for love, people that are in search of love, how are the current tools? Because I see so much online about how people are disenfranchised with things like dating apps and they've tried social media. And I've got so many of my friends who are struggling at the moment. They're going on 100 dates a year and they're unable to find anybody.

And I ponder to myself, I go, you're going on 100 dates a year. You're almost a professional dater and you still can't find somebody online. Surely that's not through lack of options or – like the top of the funnel there, the sort of exposure is fine. But there's something further down the funnel as it relates to them being able to convert somebody that seems to be off.

And I ponder to myself, I go, you're going on 100 dates a year. You're almost a professional dater and you still can't find somebody online. Surely that's not through lack of options or – like the top of the funnel there, the sort of exposure is fine. But there's something further down the funnel as it relates to them being able to convert somebody that seems to be off.

Right, right. But also I would argue that it could even stem – You could go deeper to the root, right? So you think about attachment styles. Attachment styles, I know you've talked a lot about attachment styles. Attachment styles are kind of the hot thing, the hot trend that people are talking about. Rightfully so. I like this. And if you think about that, there are primarily three, right?

Right, right. But also I would argue that it could even stem – You could go deeper to the root, right? So you think about attachment styles. Attachment styles, I know you've talked a lot about attachment styles. Attachment styles are kind of the hot thing, the hot trend that people are talking about. Rightfully so. I like this. And if you think about that, there are primarily three, right?

We know we have secure. There's anxious, and there's avoidant. There are other variations, but in essence, these are the three. Now, depending on who you talk to, roughly 50%, 60% of the population are secure. That means the balance are going to be anxious or avoidant or some combination.

We know we have secure. There's anxious, and there's avoidant. There are other variations, but in essence, these are the three. Now, depending on who you talk to, roughly 50%, 60% of the population are secure. That means the balance are going to be anxious or avoidant or some combination.