Paul Brunson

Because I, like many people listening, once upon a time thought the game was to find them. And now I've been in a relationship for some time, I realized that that's actually when the work begins. And that's what this book that debunks these 25 myths really helps us to do in a way that is so accessible. So... actionable, and really strikes at the heart of a lot of society's BS, to be quite frank.

Because I, like many people listening, once upon a time thought the game was to find them. And now I've been in a relationship for some time, I realized that that's actually when the work begins. And that's what this book that debunks these 25 myths really helps us to do in a way that is so accessible. So... actionable, and really strikes at the heart of a lot of society's BS, to be quite frank.

It's published by Flight Books, which I probably have to say for legal reasons, which is our publisher as well. But nonetheless, I read this book, and this is the reason why I wanted to speak to you today, because it's a really essential book. And there's a lot of mass media, social media propagated myths that I think are really standing in the way of most of us.

It's published by Flight Books, which I probably have to say for legal reasons, which is our publisher as well. But nonetheless, I read this book, and this is the reason why I wanted to speak to you today, because it's a really essential book. And there's a lot of mass media, social media propagated myths that I think are really standing in the way of most of us.

Paul, we have a closing tradition on this podcast where the last guest leaves a question for the next guest, not knowing who they're leaving it for. And the question that's been left for you is, what experience did you have around age 10 to 13 where you discovered your own power to get things done without your parents being involved?

Paul, we have a closing tradition on this podcast where the last guest leaves a question for the next guest, not knowing who they're leaving it for. And the question that's been left for you is, what experience did you have around age 10 to 13 where you discovered your own power to get things done without your parents being involved?

I know right away, right away. When you said 10 to 13, I zeroed in to me in New York, in Long Island, on a bus, on a school bus, getting my head smashed in to that school bus. So I was, our family was one of the first black families to move into this all Italian neighborhood in Long Island, New York. And there were a lot of people who you would put into the bully category.

I know right away, right away. When you said 10 to 13, I zeroed in to me in New York, in Long Island, on a bus, on a school bus, getting my head smashed in to that school bus. So I was, our family was one of the first black families to move into this all Italian neighborhood in Long Island, New York. And there were a lot of people who you would put into the bully category.

And there was one person in particular that really was trying to get to me. And time after time, he would taunt me. He would say certain things. He had control. He was like the bully of the bus. And I had no friends on this bus. And he would literally sometimes like smash my head into the glass as he was walking out. And the bus driver would look and never stop, never say anything.

And there was one person in particular that really was trying to get to me. And time after time, he would taunt me. He would say certain things. He had control. He was like the bully of the bus. And I had no friends on this bus. And he would literally sometimes like smash my head into the glass as he was walking out. And the bus driver would look and never stop, never say anything.

And I remember that. But you know what? Every day, I got back out on that bus. And a lot of the times that he was smashing my head, it was because I would say something to him as he was walking out or he would be outside. And I never forget, like he would walk off the bus and I would still flick him off. Right. And he would get back on the bus, smash my head in the next day.

And I remember that. But you know what? Every day, I got back out on that bus. And a lot of the times that he was smashing my head, it was because I would say something to him as he was walking out or he would be outside. And I never forget, like he would walk off the bus and I would still flick him off. Right. And he would get back on the bus, smash my head in the next day.

I hit him again and I learned how resilient I am. I'm a resilient guy, resilient, right? I keep, you push me down, I get right back up. Maybe not immediately, but I'm definitely getting back up. And so that was what I learned. And that was without having, you know, my parents involved. That was just me.

I hit him again and I learned how resilient I am. I'm a resilient guy, resilient, right? I keep, you push me down, I get right back up. Maybe not immediately, but I'm definitely getting back up. And so that was what I learned. And that was without having, you know, my parents involved. That was just me.

It's crazy how you can remember that so quickly.

It's crazy how you can remember that so quickly.

I love how that question was posed because it focused on the lesson from that moment. And it's interesting because I've thought about that moment many times, but I've never thought about the lesson until this question. And so it's empowering to look at it from that perspective.

I love how that question was posed because it focused on the lesson from that moment. And it's interesting because I've thought about that moment many times, but I've never thought about the lesson until this question. And so it's empowering to look at it from that perspective.

But it's interesting because you chose an empowering lesson. Do you know what I mean? So that's like the choice you made there. I was reading this book called The Courage to Be Disliked. I don't know if you've read that book. But it basically says that what happened, the first chapter in it anyway, says that what happened to us in our past doesn't determine our future.

But it's interesting because you chose an empowering lesson. Do you know what I mean? So that's like the choice you made there. I was reading this book called The Courage to Be Disliked. I don't know if you've read that book. But it basically says that what happened, the first chapter in it anyway, says that what happened to us in our past doesn't determine our future.