Paul C. Brunson

It's just as great because it removes just the self-identification piece and it pulls out to, okay, how do you apply this theory to your life?

From the conversation, and this shows you how an ego stroke is always good, is

Well, I learned that we have basically the same attachment styles to our partners and friends and coworkers.

So when I was like, all right, if we have this same attachment style, my attachment style can't be that all bad.

It can't be bad.

He destroyed the myth of your attachment style as a child translating to your attachment style as an adult.

We always hear it.

That's completely mislabeled.

That is a myth.

And quite honestly, I have participated in perpetuating that myth myself.

And when I say I've participated, I've said countless times, oh, wow, your parents showed you love in this way.

Therefore, this is most likely your attachment style today.

Those two things don't necessarily go hand in hand.

So I like that he destroyed that myth.

And then secondly, to his point, it's inspirational.

It shows that you could have been non-secure as a child and become secure as an adult.

I am exactly what this data shows.

I'm exactly who he described.

I am avoidant with my friends.

But it's not because I don't care about them, I don't love them.