Paul Conti

Because what needs to be beheld

processed.

We need to get our arms around in some way, shape, or form.

It's just been separated off.

So we know that is not good.

But isolation of affect can also serve us very well.

When I think back to being an intern, a medical intern in the hospital, you might have to go and

pronounce someone dead with, you know, with hysterical family members.

And then, you know, 10 minutes later, five minutes later, maybe two minutes later, really, you know, you have to go to another room and you've got to maybe do some procedure that involves, you know, having your focus on a certain thing and making sure your hand movements are the right way or talking to a person in a way that is, that's very different than where you just came from.

That's very hopeful.

And

So then you have to isolate the affect of what's going on around you.

And it happens not just in, it's just one example, but we have to do it in life so that we can put affect aside to process later or not feel the full weight of affect where we know the meaning.

Like I know the meaning of the tragedy of the person I just pronounced dead, but I want to separate that for myself because I'm also aware that it's not my tragedy so that I can then, okay, put that affect aside and go do the next thing that I have to do.

So that I think can cut both ways.

It can become too easy to do it, right?

And to reinforce.

That's when people are suffering too much over too long a period of time, then we're creatures of habit, right?

And even though our brains are... You talk about our brains are sitting on the shoulders of the giant of the maybe thousand levels of emergence that come underneath of them, our brains are also...

also work in very simple habit-based ways.