Paul Conti

Right?

And the person can maybe come out there doing it to themselves.

So, you know, you begin to put words in a structure and say, okay, let's look at what's going on inside of you.

You don't have to be scared of anything you're thinking and feeling.

In fact, the fear is in not...

Exposing it to the light of day.

That's where it gets the best of us.

And now everything is different.

And whether that involves use of medications for intrusive thoughts and depression, or there's no medicines needed, but it's all reframing.

Whatever it may be that comes next, the whole world has changed when the person has...

acknowledged what's happened, exposed it to themselves and to trusted others around them, and begun to look at it in some way other than the stuff in an evil box place that the trauma initially puts us through the reflexes it creates in us.

Any experienced therapist will tell you this, that every now and then it will happen that someone will come and they'll say something.

Usually it's very early on in the process.

They'll say something they've never said before and they immediately are in an entirely different place than they may have been for decades.

And I can remember a person saying that a coach had raped him and just saying it.

This was decades before and everything was different.

I'm not saying everything is now as perfect, but his life was in a different way.

As soon as he said it, he could see how dare, like he thought that person did that to this child.

The child was me.

He never thought it until he said it out loud because his mind was going over and over with why it was his fault, what he did to deserve it, how he kept going back.