Paul Conti

We're more in accord with ourselves.

And then the automaticity in us is

is serving us better.

So that's in the positive.

Yes, I think there's always like 100% of the time, if you have a living human, you have things to work through in the unconscious mind, right?

There's too much that goes on around us that we might find unacceptable and suppress, right?

There can be smaller but important examples, right?

Someone who feels that they're not a good enough parent and they, I don't know, they drop the child's plate, right?

And

And there's a feeling about that of badness in them that the person that can't tolerate and pushes away, right?

And maybe they become a little bit less confident, a little bit less assertive.

Those small examples are important because they may be low valence, but there can be many, many, many, many, many of them, right?

Then you can look at the opposite end of the spectrum where someone, for example, feels they're repressing their sexuality,

right, unconsciously.

There's something that is so important, say, to how a person feels about themselves, to whether they can seek fulfillment, to how they feel about their ability to interact and engage with others in ways that are loving and generative over time.

So from smaller things

that accumulate often at a rapid pace to really big things, we are pushing things into the unconscious because they're not acceptable.

And we need to explore, like, why is that not acceptable?

Maybe there's an unacceptable urge because it's really not acceptable to me, right?

Like a violent urge.