Paul Conti

That's a very unilateral type of effectiveness, which can make sense.

Sometimes I want information out of a patient because I want to know what to do next, right?

So it doesn't have to always be negative,

but it can also be a tool of manipulation, right?

If someone would say coming from envy or narcissism, I want to communicate with you in a way that makes you do what I want you to do, right?

Different from that is where it's a shared communication where, you know, there's like an umbrella, so to speak, over us.

And we're doing something that can only happen together because we're us, we're each person, right?

And we come together to do something that's a shared effectiveness.

Like I think we're doing now of like elucidating and

and pursuing thoughts and getting ideas out.

And I think the best situations are shared effectiveness situations, because you call upon the resourcefulness and the internal resources of both people.

Forget the things you're supposed to say.

Yeah.

I think that it was almost a profound reinvention of humanness, right?

After something so...

awful, so bleak and so despairing to speak anew about

shared humanness, human connection, meaning, compassion, that I think it was an intellectual direction that was adorned with all of the emotions that we need to adorn the logic with in order to make real change in the world.

And I think that his work has fueled

So many branches have come from his work, existential psychotherapy and its place in helping human activities today.

A trend away from the idea that we're all quite isolated and that what's going on between us is all very transactional.