Paul Eastwick

Right.

And we know that sometimes it can it can be fun and it can be super, super friendly.

And we just are having a laugh with our friends.

And sometimes it's not.

Sometimes it can really be hurtful.

Yeah.

So we've tried to map, you know, a picture of this kind of what is a harmful tease and what is a playful tease, because there's a lot that that goes into it.

Right.

Some of the key things we see is what is your relationship to the person?

So in general, playful teasing happens between friends.

And what some of our participants talk about is, you know, you need to know the person to know what type of teasing is OK and what type of teasing is not OK.

And so typically, if it's your friend and you're trying to be fun and have a good time, you know what's OK to tease them about, right?

Maybe you know that you can tease them that they're bad at basketball because they don't really care about basketball.

But, you know, you can't tease them about their grades at school because that's something they're really sensitive about.

So that's definitely a big one is what is your relationship with that person?

Another thing we see as being important is

who else is around, right?

So are you teasing someone in front of an audience?

If it's a tease that's kind of maybe on the line or might be harmful, the audience can make it feel particularly harmful.

Having other people kind of witness something that might be potentially embarrassing, having other people around can really increase that sense of embarrassment.