Paul Eastwick
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1,562 appearances
7 recordings
3 series
first heard Feb 2026
last heard 24 May
Paul Eastwick’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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I think for a lot of women in particular, they have the sense that they're actually being overwhelmed with responses, but it's really hard to know which of these are serious and which of these are just kind of tossed off randomly.
So I think if we're just going based on physical appearance, especially if it's just a photo, that really doesn't give you much of a sense at all of whether you're going to connect with somebody once you ultimately meet them face to face.
And even a first face to face impression is.
is not as stable as we might like to think.
Like sometimes you really don't get a sense of how you feel about somebody until you've interacted with them like two or three times at a minimum.
Yeah, I mean, I think this is often the part that people don't really want to do because because I think people are comfortable with the idea.
Right.
It's unstable.
You know, he was great on the first date, but then the second date he was a jerk.
Like, what's up with that?
Yes, indeed.
The first impressions can be very different from a second impression, but sometimes our first impressions are just kind of middling.
And the question is, are we willing to give that person another chance, preferably in a different context?
Like I'm less of a fan of doing all of your dates or like just a drink or something rather than actually doing something that's a little bit more engaging or just mixing it up in some way.
But I advise like waiting to the third date to make a call about how you feel about somebody because that's really when you at least achieve some stability and how you're going to feel about somebody.
Yes, so this sort of context is really key for understanding how attraction works.
When people first meet each other, there is reasonable agreement about like who's dateable and who's less dateable, okay?
This is the classic idea that like some people are nines and some people are sixes and some people are threes.
So we are those judgy creatures when we first meet.
But in the context you're describing,
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