Paul Eastwick

But sometimes when we think about friends first, it's tempting to think, oh, you're like best friends for a long time.

And then all of a sudden something happened.

But look, that happens.

But think about it more like you're just in each other's orbit.

But maybe you've only spent time one on one for a grand total of 45 minutes.

But you'd still call the person a friend.

It might be somebody you would text 30 years ago, somebody you'd call.

I think that's also a useful way for thinking about how this happens.

And sometimes it's a simple matter of getting to know somebody in multiple different contexts.

You ever had that experience of like, if I see this person on like my dorm floor, I say, hey.

But if I see them like at the grocery store, I like stop and talk to them because it's kind of interesting and exciting to see this person in a different context.

So many times that's where it's coming from.

It's like I've now seen you in four different contexts and we've talked in different ways in these four places.

I'm starting to feel like I'm getting to know you.

And that can be like how the ball gets rolling.

Like, I firmly believe that the average Gen X theory of dating forged in the late 90s is better than almost everything that exists online today.

And I don't think it's just a bias coming from my own age.

And look, I hope that people hear that story.

And younger folks today and that they're like, yeah, that's what we do.

You have this awful stereotype of the way the young folks stay today and we're all on our phones.