Paul Eastwick

Like, so you should do nice stuff for your partner.

That's great.

And if learning about the love languages makes you realize, oh, I guess I could be doing more chores for you or I could be telling you more how much I appreciate you.

Like, that's great.

But the idea that we're explaining compatibility this way.

No, no, no.

It's not how it works.

Good.

Yeah.

Again, if you're going to continue to use the apps, and I understand why people would, my suggestion generally is use the filters less.

And then when you do meet people face to face, give them more of a chance.

So setting up like a 20 minute date here and a 20 minute date here, sandwiched in between some more dates, you're spinning your wheels and kind of wasting your time.

I would rather people give everybody that they're willing to consider three dates, preferably in three different contexts.

So you get to see how they react in different ways.

You can try to build something together.

I think we tend to think, oh, I'm in evaluation mode.

I'm trying to figure out what I think about you.

And of course, there's some of that.

But let's think about it like a building process.

Are we building something between the two of us, a set of stories, a set of in-jokes and other things like that?