Paul Eastwick

So these folks are overrepresented on Tinder and presumably other online platforms.

They only sample Tinder.

I'm sure it's not a Tinder-specific thing.

But yes, they are more likely to be out there on the apps.

Or in other words, app users tend to be a little bit higher in these qualities than non-app users.

And that's not just a function of, oh, like the partnered people are off of the apps.

So it's just something to be watching out for.

Do you know why that is?

My guess is that if you are higher on these qualities, you've found a way to use the apps in a way that works for you.

I mean, and maybe these are folks, if you're a little bit higher on the dark tribe, actually hold these approaches.

I'm recommending, you know, hang out with people face to face, meet each other in groups that people are then on to you.

Yeah.

So again, I'm guessing, but that would be where I'd land is that it's something along those lines.

Yeah, it's all like nice.

I don't know.

You should do nice things for your partner and you should tell them that you love them.

These are wise things to do.

But the idea that like you have a language and you need your partner to speak that language or else you can't ever meet or understand each other.

This is just totally untrue.

There's nothing in the love language matching part that predicts anything.