Paul Eastwick

20 times is enormous.

These proximity effects really matter.

So of course, if we're like shooting a bunch of scenes together together,

You know, director keeps telling us to do it again.

We're going to develop not only a familiarity with each other, but also a set of in-jokes, a set of rituals.

You know, the eye roll that we give for the 20th take of this very short piece of dialogue that the director wants us to keep doing.

And this is how people connect with each other.

When we aren't interacting with the same people repeatedly in person, we are missing all of this.

Yeah, this is how we think about it, that it's something that two people are building.

It's a lot of that in-jokes, rituals, stories, and patterns kind of stuff.

I mean, sometimes we even call it a microculture, that each relationship builds its own culture over time.

When you're first meeting somebody,

Over coffee, especially if it's like the same coffee place you usually go to, sharing the same stats and figures, that's not much of a private culture that you're creating there.

That's an interview.

But if people are spending time together building those rituals and those in-jokes...

that's often where a sense of compatibility comes from.

It's the thing that makes another person start to feel irreplaceable is that, well, but now we have a history.

And I don't know, you can be kind of cynical about that and be like, well, like whatever, you just like married whoever was nearby.

But I don't know.

I think it's kind of beautiful.