Paul Eastwick

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Sonia and Simon · Why Your “Type” Is Ruining Your Love Life | Paul Eastwick · 24 May 2026 podcast

In terms of how we get it back, I mean, my hope is that some of these interventions that are designed to reduce loneliness will take off in a bigger way.

A lot of them have to do with events that bring people together organically over time.

It seems like we're seeing a resurgence in the things like the intramural sports league for young folks and the improv classes and the dance classes, again,

where people are going to interact repeatedly over time, like in the workplace example that you mentioned earlier.

So places where people get to do that casually, I am all in favor and we absolutely need more of that than ever.

Yeah, so there's a real tendency to think that men and women are super different when it comes to what they're looking for in a partner.

And it's true that if you ask men and women how much you care about this quality or that quality, you'll commonly see differences.

So women will say that they care about things like ambition and earning potential more than men do.

But about 20 years ago, we started studying what happens when people actually meet each other face to face.

How do these attributes inspire them romantically when they're actually meeting potential dating partners?

And we saw something fascinating, which is that basically there were no gender differences in the appeal of these traits.

So let me set up how we how we do these studies and how we know this.

We ran a bunch of heterosexual mixed-gender speed dating events, and we would ask men and women before the event, how much do you care about ambition and a partner?

And the women would say they care about it more than the men.

Now they go speed dating, and they meet a bunch of people who vary in the extent to which they're ambitious.

So you're a woman, and you're going speed dating, and maybe five of these guys, they're not that ambitious, and five of them are going to go on to be doctors, lawyers, etc.,

Well, you'd like the ambitious guys a little more.

It's not a huge effect.

It's about maybe 10% more.

But now we flip the genders and we look at what the men liked.

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