Pepper

Yes, complete narcissist.

This was totally my fault somehow.

He still talked his way out of it.

I literally don't know how, but I swear to God, that man taught me everything I know in my life now.

Yes, because he knew all the tricks, all the tricks.

yeah you don't figure that person out that's a this doesn't have anything to do with me situation i'm not going to feel bad about myself or anything that happened because this is something that he does that he either can or can't control but it is completely on him like this has nothing to do with me has nothing to do with our relationship or what i have allowed him to do or not allowed him to do this is what he is going to do straight out regardless

Yes.

At that point, when you're in a relationship, at some point there, you just have to go through those things to get out of it.

Like everybody always says with the like people that are in emotional abuse relationships or physical abuse relationships, there's nothing you can say to that person at that time.

They are going to be ready when they're ready.

And for whatever reason, we have to beat ourselves up to a certain extent before we realize that we're better than this.

Because you, as you have said in previous episodes and stuff like that, you stay with what you think you deserve.

And you have to get to a point where you are 400% sure I deserve better than this.

Like all women have that self esteem.

type of thing that they're like, Oh, well, you know, I'm this or I'm, you know, depressed or whatever, that they're like, Oh, well, I mean, but he puts up with this, or he's really good to me with everything else.

That was my thing.

He was always really good to me.

He was always really good to my kids.

He always had a job, blah, blah, blah, car.

Like, he was a good person, other than that.