Quinlan Walther

So I'm going to abandon so that I can get this fundamental need met.

Where the self is really more your self-respect, like your self-concept, the you that is maturing and has a firm sense of this is who I am, this is what I like about myself, this is how I allow people to treat me, etc.

But self-abandonment always comes with some kind of benefit.

We don't just do it for fun.

It meets some deeper psychological need that isn't being met overtly.

And what about it?

And what about it?

Is always what you follow it up with.

What and what about it?

We're all the way that we are because of something.

No, do we just fall out of the sky like that?

There's a reason, there's a why for everything.

It doesn't mean that it's reason to tolerate behavior that's disrespectful or harmful.

It's attachment at its most 100%.

I can't, I'm sure alcohol really helped with that too.

Helped as a viewer.

Boundaries are rules for yourself.

for yourself they are rules that i will abide by because i know what i want for myself for my life from the relationships that i will have in my life it's a rule for myself and

People tend to think that it has to come with a means of control, controlling the other people around them, getting what they want out of life.

It doesn't.