Rabbi Aryeh Lebowitz

And the mishaburah might mean that it's mutter because when you're devouring the entire item, it's not called erasing at all because the surface doesn't even remain.

You know, erasing is normally when you erase something from the surface.

But if you're destroying the entire surface, I think Osama Zalman has a thing that if a person lights a cigarette, so let's assume, like in the old days when they used to assume that it was mutter because it was Shavuot called Nefesh.

So if there's writing on the side of the cigarette, is it a violation of mochik, that you're erasing the letters on the cigarette?

So Shlomo Zalman said, no, you're destroying the whole thing.

It burns the whole thing.

When a figure is baked into a cake or a cookie, like in the case of the Oreo, so the writing is not external, it's shaped into the form of the cookie.

So Mishav Bruce says, befer shetatz moter, that you're allowed to even break it.

not just to bite into it, which you could do even if something's on the cookie, but you're allowed to break it.

So, tea biscuits, Oreos, you know, things like that.

And likewise, if the cake itself is in a distinct shape, it's also mutter to cut it.

Okay, Chazanish discusses this at length in Semen Samech Aleph, Os Aleph, Dibra Maskel, V'Amnam, if anyone wants to look.

Okay, question number six.

How should a person handle hugging female family members who would be offended if one stopped?

for halakhic reasons.

Okay, so the question is assuming that it is also to do so, which is a good assumption.

The Shulchan Aruch Nevin Ezer holds that chibuk v'nishuk is nisudah oreisah, like the Shitas ha-Ramban, not like the Ramban, who holds that negiyah b'derech taiva is only nisudah rabbanon, but we passkin it is, in fact, nisudah oreisah.

When it comes to negiyah shalom b'derech taiva, if you're touching in a non-taivadik way, so then the Shach writes in Yerudea Kuv Tzadihei that it's mutter.

So at what age does that isser kick in?

So it starts to become a problem according to the Mishnah of B'ruah and the Be'er Lech and Semenayin Hai at the age of three and according to the Chazanish a little bit later when a girl is a little bit more mature.