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Another reason that they suggest to perhaps change the Minag is that many mixed marriages between Isfard and Ashkenazim, the Kala finds it very disappointing and the guests find it very confusing.

if there is no Yichud, and very often you'll have a Chassen teacher or a Kala teacher, more often a Kala teacher that tells the Kala how it's emotionally healthy, and she needs the time alone with her husband at that time, and otherwise it's going to be too much for her to handle, it's going to be too overwhelming for her, so for those reasons they try to introduce Yichud even at a Sephardic wedding in violation of Sephardic tradition.

So the halakhah of the Meisah, the Sephardic tradition, is pretty clear on this, and l'chaura should be maintained.

Rabbi Jakter quotes Rav Levi from Gush, who suggests that Sephardim should change their practice, and in fact, I think he's a Rosh Kolah in Gush, and he wrote a response to Rav Yitzchak Yosef's piece, where Rabbi Jakter suggests maybe a compromise, that you could do yichud without edim,

and leave the door unlocked so they could keep up the Tzura of Yichud room without actually having the halachic qualifications of Yichud.

or you could put someone else in the room, like we would do at a Chuppas Nida, where you put a child in the room, or something like that, so you could have somewhat of a Tzura of Yichud, without having the actual Yichud.

So Rav Ejakter Sefer, he quotes Mordechai Javahari, that Rav Vadya was the extra person in the Yichud room at one of his granddaughter's weddings, that even Rav Vadya allowed for such a fake Tzura of Yichud, despite the fact that it's Rav Yitzchak, Rav Vadya's son, who's adamantly against this, says that we're smart, and we don't do...

So I texted Rabbi Javeh Harry this morning.

I asked him, where did you hear that from?

He said that Ezra Dweck told him that at his parents' wedding, Ezra Dweck is a great-grandson of Rabbi Vadya, he said that at his parents' wedding, Rabbi Vadya was hiding in the Yichudum.

Rabbi Javeri writes that though it has become commonplace for Sfardim to perform a Yichud Rum, whether by choice or by peer pressure, one should understand that Sfardic heritage is rich with tradition spanning generations.

Fear of standing out in today's society is no reason to let go and blend in, especially when the Sfardic custom is firmly rooted in halakhic literature and shared among so many different communities, including Iraqis, Persians, Moroccans, Tunisians, and Syrians.

I would agree with that, that L'chara, each community should follow their tradition.

And although an Ashkenazi girl growing up may have always imagined that she would have a Yichud room, probably, you know, there's a lot of things that she imagined her life would look like that are going to change when she marries a Sephardi guy.

And that's, you know, that's part of the beauty of the different cultures that we have within Yiddishkeit.

But L'chara, each community should be proud of their tradition and continue to observe

They're proper traditions.