Rachel Abrams

And I would remind myself some things just are.

I'm Kay from Port Angeles, Washington, and my mom's mantra was, this too shall pass.

Oh, boy.

did I hate to hear that she'd say it when I was a teenager and I don't know if I was complaining or something and you know honestly it felt a little dismissive but now I'm 61 years old I kind of get it and I would so love to hear her say that to me again I miss you mom

Our mother would say, rain makes you beautiful.

Misery is optional.

It's never so bad that it couldn't be worse.

She said that I should love myself first.

Hi, I'm Amy Marcus, and I'm from Kailua, Hawaii, living in the San Francisco Bay Area.

My phrase that I remember my mom saying a lot, the one that sticks with me, is don't make big decisions late at night.

And she used to say this to me on the phone when I would call her.

from college because she was still living in Hawaii and I was upstate New York.

So I could call her late at night and it would still be, you know, dinner time for her.

And I could call her with my anxieties, my worries, my stresses, whatever, just to chat.

And I remember her saying, just get some sleep, get some rest, don't make big decisions late at night.

And now as a parent to a two-year-old myself, these last few years of pregnancy and new parenthood,

I really wish I could call her and I can't because she passed away at the end of 2020 unexpectedly.

So, you know, parenting has you up at all hours, getting so little sleep and you find yourself maybe Googling sleep training advice for your baby in the middle of the night.

And then I would hear my mom's voice and she would say, no, don't, don't do this right now.

Go to sleep, get some rest, make this decision when you're feeling a little more rested and can think a little more clearly.