Rachel Cruz

Oh man, this is a hard one because it is, I think it is a wise decision to do one.

And I say that even more, I have a friend who's going through

not a great situation.

And she came in with a lot more and now he's just, I mean, it was, it's just messy.

It's messy, messy.

And there's a level, um, again, you're not, you're, you're hoping and praying obviously that this is the one and that it's going to last a lifetime.

But as you guys have experienced, you know, there, there is a reality that,

To all of this and whenever we any of us get married, right?

I think there is like this like, okay i'm choosing you for a reason and for a lifetime, but um, but we also don't live under a rock and know that things change in life and Situations come up and unfortunately some really hard things happen and does causes marriages To to break up right to to enter into divorce and we don't want that um, so

What were the, I'm curious, what were the parts of it that was making her, because you guys went through a questionnaire together and it didn't sound like the questionnaire brought up a lot of red flags, but when she was actually like reading it, does she feel like she won't be taken care of if something happens or like what's the, what's that underlying?

Well, it sounds like you're you're being very gracious about this, Derek.

I think it's such a hard line to be wise in a situation and being I mean, you don't sound like you're drawing these crazy hard lines and you know what I mean?

And you're pushing it like it's your tone feels very.

humble and gracious, which I, yeah, I mean, I think she probably very much appreciates.

So yeah, I'm trying to think if I were in her position, which you never can fully do for somebody, you know, there's a part of me that

I don't know.

I think I would understand you're coming in with 12 million and I understand that's not mine right now.

Right.

Like there's, I don't know.

Are you an, are you an anti-prenup?