Rachel Cruze

Not saying that she's out of bounds.

She could be out of bounds because she spends more than what y'all are making.

You can't do that mathematically and be a grown up, right?

That's how you live life in debt.

And we don't want that.

But I mean, you just said like, well, she stays home with the kids and I do the money.

I put the money in the account that feeds her.

I mean, it's a very separate, even though maybe technically it's together.

emotionally and plan wise, you guys are on two different tracks.

And when you tell her, this is how much you have to spend on groceries to me, that's a red flag in your marriage and communication.

And so you need, I wish you had said, or the goal, I should say this, the goal is for you to say, we planned on spending 1200 a month and that was our plan.

And so what I think the first step you have to do

is to get her to sit down at the table with you and you guys look at numbers and together you guys create a budget code.

Because I'll be honest too, I'm sure there's some wrong in there that she has, but also she is seeing expenses every single day and knowing the reality of what things cost because she's the one buying them and you don't.

I'm not saying that she's justified in it, but you actually may learn something in sitting down with her and hearing,

What she has to say, to say, oh, wow, I didn't realize that sports uniforms cost, you know, 30 bucks a kid.

And so now we're spending 100 bucks, you know, in one swipe because we needed uniforms.

And that pisses me off because how do we spend them 100?

You know, you may actually see some reality as well.

But she also, if there's any entitlement in her end or any like, oh, well, I don't know.