Rachel Cruze

And so I'm willing to add some money to the equation.

But the equation is going to be that the two of us sit down and we plan out the money in the best way that is good for our lives.

And our lives include me being healthy emotionally and being healthy medically.

And it includes us buying a stick of furniture every now and then.

And it includes us getting out of debt.

And it includes you having some fun, too, whatever his fun bucket is and those kinds of things.

But we're going to have a written, detailed, every-dollar budget that both of us agree to where every one of the dollars that both of us bring in are going.

And we are going to become aligned as a couple on that.

And then that accomplishes exactly the same thing.

But the way you're going about it, bluntly, you're avoiding dealing with the weaknesses in your marriage.

And I want you to go into those head on.

And by the way, they're not deal breaker weaknesses.

They're just normal people that had never sat down and done the conflict work of getting engaged and doing this together and getting aligned.

We're going to go from 43 to 75.

Yeah.

And we're going to sit down and spend that money, and it's going to include some of the care things that I need and some of the things that you need to do and some things that as a couple we need to work on, like getting out of debt and building an emergency fund and some of those things.

But going over here and building a separate life to accomplish your goals that don't include him supporting you in your goals means that you haven't done the work on the marriage at that point.

It's a great question, and I appreciate the spirit, the way you asked the question.

Thank you for that.

So folks, when I started this stuff 30-something years ago, I thought this was a math problem.