Raina Cohen

And I think, yeah, if you're questioning it, drawing your own experience, when's the last time someone has asked you to do a favor and did you resent them or did it actually feel like it was an opportunity to get closer?

And then the way that so many people as adults operate in their friendships is that they are doing the catch up.

So they are going for a meal or something and then they're summarizing their lives over the last few weeks or months to each other.

Which is so different from, you know, when we were younger, we're probably making memories with our friends.

We are, you know, going on little adventures, even like in the woods or just scheming together.

And adult scheming might mean painting your office walls.

Like that is the most fun thing you have.

But, you know, when you...

get covered in paint and you listen to some Lizzo while you're doing it.

Or, you know, there are ways that even doing the most mundane things can become these really wonderful experiences that you remember.

But if the conversation is all about catching up and summarizing your life, it's just it's not going to deepen the friendship in a way that doing things together that you're going to remember will.

you know, sorry.

And now I'm like, I had an idea for the other thing.

We celebrate romantic relationships.

We don't really celebrate friendships.

People I know have like a, they celebrate the anniversary of their friendship or they have, they do things to commemorate the friendship.

That is also like a mark of really close friends.

This woman and her friends, they had, yeah, they had rituals.

They had a secret language.

They like had these notebooks that they wrote in every day that they filled.