Ramit Sethi

It doesn't actually change the way I feel.

So I worked with this couple and I helped them understand why they both felt this way about money.

And, you know, from the outside, it's like, this is so irrational.

If you make more, just pay more.

If I were in that situation, et cetera, et cetera.

None of that stuff matters.

When you are in the couple in that relationship, you will feel a certain way.

And we got to work with you individually, not what everybody else says.

In the end, the conclusion that they came to was she wanted him to occasionally pay for dinner, but she also wanted him to fill up his IRA.

So this is what they did.

Every so often before they went out to dinner, she would give him her credit card.

And she would say, here, I want you to pay for tonight.

And he said, cool.

He understood it.

They went out and that's what they did.

Now, to us sitting here, we're like, this dance makes no sense.

Why don't they just do it this way or that way?

Guess what?

Every single one of us has some irrational thing we do with money.

every single one of us.