Ramit Sethi

In the end, the conclusion that they came to was she wanted him to occasionally pay for dinner, but she also wanted him to fill up his IRA.

So this is what they did.

Every so often before they went out to dinner, she would give him her credit card.

And she would say, here, I want you to pay for tonight.

And he said, cool.

He understood it.

They went out and that's what they did.

Now, to us sitting here, we're like, this dance makes no sense.

Why don't they just do it this way or that way?

Guess what?

Every single one of us has some irrational thing we do with money.

every single one of us.

And I think that we are ready to actually have conversations about how we are irrational.

Money is not just dollars and cents on a page.

That's why you don't feel good about money, even when you have more than you ever thought you would.

That's why you worry about money, but you have never read a single book on personal finance.

We are all irrational, including me.

And when you get into a relationship,

you got to acknowledge that.

And then you get to say, hey, what is our vision of a rich life together?