Ray Dalio

Now, you know, in my book, you know, Principles, Life and Work, in the work part of Principles, I've outlined those things, those techniques that can be done repeatedly.

So you have to have a system for that.

And so let me make very simple examples of that.

If you and I are disagreeing, and we sort of want to try to get at the truth, things that you can do is to mutually agree on a mediator.

So, okay, you could step out of your argument and say, okay, this isn't working.

How should we do this disagreement?

And maybe, like, let's mutually agree on a mediator.

Like, we both agree that that person, you know, somebody we can trust and do through.

Okay, that's a good step.

Then as you're doing that, carrying that through, you can also say, are you taking in the other person's thinking and replying to that, or are you just blocking?

And there are techniques that you can do to demonstrate you've taken it in,

Okay, like repeat the other's point and so on.

And then reply to the other's point.

And then do certain things like not interrupt.

In other words, I have a rule.

I call it the two-minute rule.

Somebody says, okay, can you give me the two-minute rule?

That means for the next two minutes, I can speak uninterruptedly.

So there are techniques that you can use to first understand that it's not a big fight, that there's protocols.

Okay, then how do you do that in a hierarchy?