Renee

Recently, within the last 10, 11 years, I have been working on myself.

I have three daughters from a previous relationship.

I...

It's well over $100,000.

Okay.

Well over.

Oh, I am very sure it's addictive stuff.

He gets packages at the house all the time, you know, from different stores.

you know, new clothes, golf stuff, um, soccer stuff.

Yes.

Yes.

He tried to frame it as giving us the life that he thinks that we deserve, you know, because he really wants to be there, step up and be there for me and my, my children.

Um, he has two other children of his own that live with their mom and, um,

Which is great.

I'm really happy that that's how he feels, but I can't accept that as an answer because I know that that's not the deep reason that he is in debt.

He is an alcoholic.

He recently went to treatment and he's, I mean, he has been working on himself as far as that goes, but

I don't think that he's getting to the deep, deep reasons of why he feels the need to do... He's a people pleaser, 100% a people pleaser.

He wants to make sure people feel good all the time.

And this is something that I have asked him to work on in therapy so that, you know, like I've said, be selfish, be, you know...