Reuben Williams

No one questioned me.

I know a lot of people are confronted with the possibility of people not believing their story.

Not once did that happen with the people that I told, which I'm incredibly grateful for.

So yeah, they were brilliant for me.

Um, I mean, fair enough.

I went to a gay club once and someone looked at me and said, yeah, you're the straightest guy I've ever seen.

Um, um,

So how did my identity plan to?

Yeah, 100%.

And it wasn't until I started having conversations with women, and particularly women of color, that I started to fully understand what other victim survivors go through when they're trying to disclose a story.

And, um, cause at first, like, um, they would tell me that like that, that hold onto it for, for so, so long.

And I'm like, what do you mean?

Why didn't, when you tell someone, um, and then I would hear like the barriers that would exist in their brain compared to the barriers that existed for me.

And it was like,

Like for me to like come forward, um, um, felt like a bit of a hurdle to get over.

But for, you know, when you start to stack up, like the amount of things that, uh, women and women of color have to consider before, um, doing what's best for them, they've got to bloody climb over the Burj Khalifa just to kind of like get through what they're going through.

And so, yeah, absolutely, at least for me.

And I also know it's different for other males as well.

Like I think my situation is very circumstantial because there are other men who suffer horrific things as well where it is still quite difficult for them.

So I wouldn't say it's just easy because it's a white male.