Reuben Williams

And he went silent.

I left mom's house at night with my blood boiling.

As soon as I left the house, I opened up the family WhatsApp group and I hit leave group.

I get in my car, start driving.

I make it about 100 meters down the road before I have to pull over because I'm crying so hard I can't see.

Not because of what dad said was particularly triggering, but because

What he said made me feel like I can't have a relationship with my own father while he believes what he believes.

Like when you dismiss the credibility and the believability of victims, you are dismissing me.

So I went back to my therapist and explained to him what happened.

And he said to me, he goes, Ruben, this is a world-class difficult conversation you got to have.

World-class difficult were the words that he used.

Yeah.

Exactly.

Right.

Exactly.

Right.

And so we start working on how to have this chat with dad and a few days go by and eventually I, you know, prepared to have this chat with dad.

And I give him a call and I said to him, like, number one, like, do you know what you did wrong?

Number two, do you know why I can't be around people who don't believe victims of sexual violence?

Number three, do you know what will happen if you don't change?