Rhianna Moore

So describe to me then with the benefit of hindsight when you realise problems were arising.

Yeah.

What were those early red flags like?

And the abuse ultimately became physical, but the elements of control, particularly at home, tell me a bit more about them.

Was there... Or is there any element of...

of guilt or self-blame, you know, when you look back or when you did maybe initially and you realised that those red flags were there but you hadn't seen them?

Yeah.

Yeah.

If it was easy to see when people were in it, domestic violence wouldn't be the issue it is today.

And when the abuse became physical, you know, was that a case of immediate alarm bells for you or had he kind of ground you down so much that...

That no alarm bells went off.

And at what point then do you realise that, you know, you don't deserve this?

But what is it that prompts you to do something?

Was it your friend who called the police that night?

Maybe this is impossible to answer.

Would you have stopped your friend calling the police if you could have that night?

You know, as in... No.

No, OK, so you weren't at that level of denial.

You really were desperate.

And you were talking about