Rhiannon Lambert

You just cannot tell your friends how to eat or what to do or what to focus on.

They have to figure out themselves.

And all you can do to be a good friend is just be there if they ever want to discuss something or they're intrigued by what you do.

You can't impart what you do on somebody else.

out of your household that is within reason.

Like if you house share, again, it's kind of learning that skill of life, which is, I'm probably being a bit harsh here, but really sucks, but it's really difficult because you just want someone to feel their best.

And you know that it's damaging to be focusing on aesthetic trends, but you just can't control their environment and their world and their psychology that they're living in in that moment and that time.

So I do think it's sometimes best to...

Just focus on what you can do yourself.

And like Ella said, just keep that going strong.

It's so interesting.

Do you know what?

Relationships with food take a long time because it depends at what stage you're in at your life, what the external factors are that are triggering the stresses in your life that perhaps are leading you to turn to food as a coping mechanism or strategy, where this inbuilt depth of restriction or guilt or even punishment for food, you know, allowing yourself permission to eat is coming from.

You know, I saw my friend last weekend, Helen, she's a psychotherapist.

And it's really interesting when, you know, we often have a chat sometimes about methods of work and what we're up to and how we deal with things.

And we were saying how times have changed in a way that people are now more aware of wanting to heal their relationship with food.

Whereas, you know, 15 years ago when we started training in this particular space,

looking at the psychological ways of disordered eating or behaviors.

We used to have to do methods like hot seating with clients and trying to really tap into that internal voice within your head, which is really difficult to do and not effective for everybody as an approach.

I think one of the most helpful things that you can do right now is, first of all, back in my book, Renourish 2017, I had a self-esteem scale, a body image scale, and things at