Rhiannon Lambert

It's so interesting.

Do you know what?

Relationships with food take a long time because it depends at what stage you're in at your life, what the external factors are that are triggering the stresses in your life that perhaps are leading you to turn to food as a coping mechanism or strategy, where this inbuilt depth of restriction or guilt or even punishment for food, you know, allowing yourself permission to eat is coming from.

You know, I saw my friend last weekend, Helen, she's a psychotherapist.

And it's really interesting when, you know, we often have a chat sometimes about methods of work and what we're up to and how we deal with things.

And we were saying how times have changed in a way that people are now more aware of wanting to heal their relationship with food.

Whereas, you know, 15 years ago when we started training in this particular space,

looking at the psychological ways of disordered eating or behaviors.

We used to have to do methods like hot seating with clients and trying to really tap into that internal voice within your head, which is really difficult to do and not effective for everybody as an approach.

I think one of the most helpful things that you can do right now is, first of all, back in my book, Renourish 2017, I had a self-esteem scale, a body image scale, and things at

boxes you can tick through you know you can probably find those on chat gpt have a look at yourself how are you struggling how are you doing out of 10 how do you feel within yourself then in another box next to it you start collating the information on what are the certain foods like in a traffic light list i do in clinic with green as what i consider my safe foods amber what could be remotely triggering for me and red things that i just don't allow myself because i feel i get stuck in that cycle of restriction or guilt consistently

And it's starting to pick apart all the cues and then working slowly to build it up.

We're definitely going to do a relationship with Food Workshop on nutrition plus an eight week intensive.

But for now, I think the best thing is definitely to start looking at yourself and noticing the enjoyable things and really trying to add in something that brings you joy every single day rather than focusing and fixating on the negatives.

You need to put the negatives on the paper, remove them from your head.

I think that was a lovely, lovely way to summarize, but just so you don't feel hard on yourself.

It takes a lot of time, a lot of work, inner compassion.

And for some people that can come quicker than others.

And yeah, perfection doesn't exist.

in mind I think it's a beautiful thing to add and it leads us actually if you could expand on it Ella because the next question from an anonymous listener but thank you she's tuning in from Sweden and they've said hi your podcast brings me so much comfort each week I've heard that breathwork can help regulate the nervous system but I don't know where to start what would you recommend for beginners and I think Ella with breathwork is something we can all do for free at home we can sit down but it