Rich Roll

That is sort of my point.

Your obsession with being responsive is really just a fear impulse.

Your discomfort that's forcing you to reach for your phone to cure yourself of that discomfort is the same craving that compels the alcoholic to grab a drink.

They can't sit still in their discomfort.

The solution is to answer the text and feel okay that the world, the uncertainty has been resolved.

But learning to just sit with that discomfort is really the way forward.

Like, it's okay to be uncomfortable.

It's not going to kill you.

It might feel like it's going to kill you, but it will pass.

And you'll realize over time that that thing that you thought was so urgent actually isn't.

Yeah.

Only when you part ways with it and take a break do you really fully recognize that all of these things that you're allowing to control your life actually aren't that important.

And the things that are important, your relationships, your connection to other human beings, your capacity to do deep creative work, all of those things are getting short shrift.

Because we're confused about what's important.

And your life is more valuable than this, you know, and it's worth living.

And if you think you're immune from this or that you don't fall into that category, in addition to doing that time inventory thing,

you can do an impact inventory.

In other words, and this is another like thing out of recovery, like basically journal and write down how your phone usage makes you feel on an hourly or daily basis.

And then in addition to that,

do a rigorous, fearless, open and honest inventory of how your relationship with your phone affects your relationships to other people and how it makes those other people feel.