Richard Feidler

which is, I just think it's magic, is I actually have learned, because all my boundaries, I mean, I had no boundaries from the childhood abuse.

That was one of my problems.

I couldn't respect other people's boundaries when I was in relationships because I didn't have any.

They'd been taken away from me.

So I would just walk over people's boundaries all the time.

A really bad habit of mine.

Not now.

But one of the things in my healing journey was I learned to have a, I got a boundary for the first time.

So now I actually have more male friends.

I am not scared of men.

I'm hypervigilant, unfortunately, all the time.

So I don't sleep well.

I hurt my hearing.

I'm on hyper alert all the time.

I've learned to live with it.

But I've learned that if I feel like a man is threatening me, sometimes it triggers my trauma.

But sometimes I can just walk away or say expletives like I get angry.

So I'm not perfect.

But I have learnt that I've learnt how to look after myself.

Well, you know, after all of that, in my 50s, because I was always a runner before this even happened, I took up sport when I stopped smoking.