Rick Morton

And he can see that Elio is shattered.

And he sits him down and he very gently almost asks him permission if he's allowed to give him this pep talk.

And he says, you know, he acknowledges not just the beautiful friendship that Elio had, but he said maybe even more than a friendship and that he envied him.

And the speech in the film is almost word for word what happens in the book.

And there's this beautiful line where he just talks about this idea that when you have hurt, it's always got an attendant joy.

It hurts because you had the joy.

And he says, don't snuff it out.

You know, don't extinguish it.

And I'll just quote from a little bit of it because it is so powerful.

He says, we rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster than we should be.

That we go bankrupt by the age of 30 and have less to offer each time we start with someone new.

But to feel nothing so as not to feel anything.

What a waste.

And God, I mean, having not had a close relationship with my father, that was the scene in both the book and the movie that just utterly broke me.

Because that's what caring is.

And that's what love is.

And it speaks to that idea that Andre...

isn't afraid to tackle those bigger issues because, yes, there is hurt and pain and sorrow and love and lust and all of these things, but what does it mean?

It means you exist.

It means you live and that you are kind of almost beyond yourself in the world, and that is the most important thing.