Rita Moreno

Many times unspoken. Yeah, right. I'll tell you something interesting. About four months after he passed away, I was at a party with people my age, mostly. And there were five women who were widowed. Wow. And I said to them, I would like to ask you a question that I hope won't offend you. But I said, I really need some backup here.

Many times unspoken. Yeah, right. I'll tell you something interesting. About four months after he passed away, I was at a party with people my age, mostly. And there were five women who were widowed. Wow. And I said to them, I would like to ask you a question that I hope won't offend you. But I said, I really need some backup here.

Because I really thought, man, you're a piece of work, you know, feeling relieved like this. Because the morning after I came back home, he died in New York in the hospital. Morning after, in my bed, I said, when I woke up, Oh, my God, I can stay in bed all day if I want to. I can watch all the TV news that I want to because that used to make him crazy, which is fair. That's fair.

Because I really thought, man, you're a piece of work, you know, feeling relieved like this. Because the morning after I came back home, he died in New York in the hospital. Morning after, in my bed, I said, when I woke up, Oh, my God, I can stay in bed all day if I want to. I can watch all the TV news that I want to because that used to make him crazy, which is fair. That's fair.

And I realized that I just, it's like something amazing went over me, passed over me. And I asked these ladies at that party, back to that, I told them how I felt. And I said, did any of you by any chance feel like that? There were five of them. Four of them said yes. And they didn't hesitate to say it. Maybe because I'd brought it up the way I did, which was very simple and plain.

And I realized that I just, it's like something amazing went over me, passed over me. And I asked these ladies at that party, back to that, I told them how I felt. And I said, did any of you by any chance feel like that? There were five of them. Four of them said yes. And they didn't hesitate to say it. Maybe because I'd brought it up the way I did, which was very simple and plain.

And you're not saying that your love is gone? No, you're not saying anything remotely like that. What you're saying is, I started a new life. Brand new life that I couldn't give up because of my daughter. I just couldn't dream of leaving her without her father at the ready at all times. I just couldn't do it. Did you have any loneliness?

And you're not saying that your love is gone? No, you're not saying anything remotely like that. What you're saying is, I started a new life. Brand new life that I couldn't give up because of my daughter. I just couldn't dream of leaving her without her father at the ready at all times. I just couldn't do it. Did you have any loneliness?

I had loneliness before he passed because I didn't feel able to share that with anyone. I really thought of going back into therapy because one of the best things that I've ever done for myself was therapy, by the way, psychotherapy. But it was weird to feel all this freedom. I didn't know what the hell to do with it. What did you do with it? Not much for a while. I cried a lot. Oh.

I had loneliness before he passed because I didn't feel able to share that with anyone. I really thought of going back into therapy because one of the best things that I've ever done for myself was therapy, by the way, psychotherapy. But it was weird to feel all this freedom. I didn't know what the hell to do with it. What did you do with it? Not much for a while. I cried a lot. Oh.

Because I did miss him.

Because I did miss him.

And you know what I missed a lot? Tell me. A lot. To this day, I still miss it. Whenever he would pass me, usually it was in the kitchen, because I was always in the kitchen doing something. He would run his hand over my tush. Oh. Which is so sweet. Mm-hmm. No, nothing said. Nothing explained. I knew what that meant. He just loved my tush. He loved me very, very much.

And you know what I missed a lot? Tell me. A lot. To this day, I still miss it. Whenever he would pass me, usually it was in the kitchen, because I was always in the kitchen doing something. He would run his hand over my tush. Oh. Which is so sweet. Mm-hmm. No, nothing said. Nothing explained. I knew what that meant. He just loved my tush. He loved me very, very much.

I think that Lenny loved me more than I loved him.

I think that Lenny loved me more than I loved him.

Because people, when they marry, very often make a pact, an unspoken pact. In my case, that's exactly what we did. My pact with Lenny was, I'll be your little girl and make you very happy if you'll be my daddy and protect me. I see. Because I had a bunch of fathers. Right, I know. You know, stepfathers and stuff. And that was the unspoken pact that we made.

Because people, when they marry, very often make a pact, an unspoken pact. In my case, that's exactly what we did. My pact with Lenny was, I'll be your little girl and make you very happy if you'll be my daddy and protect me. I see. Because I had a bunch of fathers. Right, I know. You know, stepfathers and stuff. And that was the unspoken pact that we made.

And then one day, after about 10 years, I began to dislike the marriage because he became a controller. And that really drove me crazy. And also, the controlling part did something else that surprised me. I realized that in being his little girl, I was also this exotic little tropical bird. That's how he also saw me. And there was a point when I didn't want that anymore. I wanted to say,

And then one day, after about 10 years, I began to dislike the marriage because he became a controller. And that really drove me crazy. And also, the controlling part did something else that surprised me. I realized that in being his little girl, I was also this exotic little tropical bird. That's how he also saw me. And there was a point when I didn't want that anymore. I wanted to say,