Rob Dial

But when you take responsibility for everything, you're no longer the victim in your life.

You're the sole person in control of your life.

But once you say like, it's on me to heal, it's on me to change, it's on me to create the life that I want for myself and my family.

Once you really get that clicked into your brain, everything changes completely.

And so that's the first thing.

The second thing that changed my life is practicing daily gratitude, even when life sucks.

and gratitude seems like this cutesy little you know flowery i'm gonna put on my yoga pants and i'm gonna be all grateful and that's the way i always thought about it for years but it's not just like a cute little habit what i have realized over the past couple years when i've really been focusing on gratitude is that gratitude is a gateway to happier moments in your life happier days in your life without needing to change anything except for your perspective

And so you have this thing in your brain called the reticular activating system.

And if you've never heard of it before, it's basically the filter of your brain.

Your brain has approximately about 11 million bits of information that can come into your brain at any second.

And your brain is filtering out, what do I need?

What do I not need?

And out of those 11 million bits per second, it only takes in between 30 to 80 bits per second.

So it's filtering out 99.99999% of things.

And your brain can be trained for what you want it to look at.

And so we all have, as humans, negativity bias, which is where our brain will search for what is wrong in our life, AKA what is negative, as a safety mechanism.

And so we'll see all of the negative in our life, but that's gonna make you feel like shit.

So you train your nervous system

and your reticular activating system to stop scanning for danger and start scanning for joy, for happiness, for things that you can be grateful for.

And so even when it felt hard, when I had no money, when I had no clear purpose in my life, when I had no clue what was next and what I was doing, there was always something to be grateful for.