Rob Henderson

And this is consistent with other work that people who are emotionally volatile tend to be attracted to one another or find something interesting about one another, whereas people who are more emotionally stable tend to seek out partners who are stable. There was a really interesting essay a couple of years ago from our mutual friend Scott Barry Kaufman, and he wrote about...

And this is consistent with other work that people who are emotionally volatile tend to be attracted to one another or find something interesting about one another, whereas people who are more emotionally stable tend to seek out partners who are stable. There was a really interesting essay a couple of years ago from our mutual friend Scott Barry Kaufman, and he wrote about...

And this is consistent with other work that people who are emotionally volatile tend to be attracted to one another or find something interesting about one another, whereas people who are more emotionally stable tend to seek out partners who are stable. There was a really interesting essay a couple of years ago from our mutual friend Scott Barry Kaufman, and he wrote about...

Yeah, which which I think like, you know, if you're if yeah, so people who are sort of relatively narcissistic find other narcissistic people interesting and attractive and those kinds of things. One thing that was interesting related to the personality point is is authenticity.

Yeah, which which I think like, you know, if you're if yeah, so people who are sort of relatively narcissistic find other narcissistic people interesting and attractive and those kinds of things. One thing that was interesting related to the personality point is is authenticity.

Yeah, which which I think like, you know, if you're if yeah, so people who are sort of relatively narcissistic find other narcissistic people interesting and attractive and those kinds of things. One thing that was interesting related to the personality point is is authenticity.

that this really interesting paper found that people who score highly on measures of authenticity within their relationship. And so these were basically the extent to which participants agreed with statements like, I'll usually tell my partner things that are on my mind, even if there's a chance he or she may not understand me.

that this really interesting paper found that people who score highly on measures of authenticity within their relationship. And so these were basically the extent to which participants agreed with statements like, I'll usually tell my partner things that are on my mind, even if there's a chance he or she may not understand me.

that this really interesting paper found that people who score highly on measures of authenticity within their relationship. And so these were basically the extent to which participants agreed with statements like, I'll usually tell my partner things that are on my mind, even if there's a chance he or she may not understand me.

And when people are more likely to agree with those statements, they also tend to correlate highly with levels of relationship satisfaction. And interestingly, the reverse was the case, too, that people who are low authenticity also tend to pair with people who are also more deceptive or less authentic.

And when people are more likely to agree with those statements, they also tend to correlate highly with levels of relationship satisfaction. And interestingly, the reverse was the case, too, that people who are low authenticity also tend to pair with people who are also more deceptive or less authentic.

And when people are more likely to agree with those statements, they also tend to correlate highly with levels of relationship satisfaction. And interestingly, the reverse was the case, too, that people who are low authenticity also tend to pair with people who are also more deceptive or less authentic.

And so there really is that sort of assortative mating there going on, too, which I guess like one potential inference here is that if you want an authentic partner, if you want someone who tells you the truth, you have to be a bit transparent. You have to be open yourself in order to establish that trust.

And so there really is that sort of assortative mating there going on, too, which I guess like one potential inference here is that if you want an authentic partner, if you want someone who tells you the truth, you have to be a bit transparent. You have to be open yourself in order to establish that trust.

And so there really is that sort of assortative mating there going on, too, which I guess like one potential inference here is that if you want an authentic partner, if you want someone who tells you the truth, you have to be a bit transparent. You have to be open yourself in order to establish that trust.

Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I mean, yeah, the best, you know, that's why we call them honest signals, right? Is that, you know, only someone who's truly authentic and truly whatever that, you know, you're going to be the most likely to attract a partner with those kinds of traits as well.

Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I mean, yeah, the best, you know, that's why we call them honest signals, right? Is that, you know, only someone who's truly authentic and truly whatever that, you know, you're going to be the most likely to attract a partner with those kinds of traits as well.

Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I mean, yeah, the best, you know, that's why we call them honest signals, right? Is that, you know, only someone who's truly authentic and truly whatever that, you know, you're going to be the most likely to attract a partner with those kinds of traits as well.

as opposed to uh keeping some stuff just for your journal and the therapist room interesting yeah i i think generally well it depends on what what the um the conversation is about um you know if you have your sort of most wild extreme thoughts like i don't know maybe those don't always have to be aired well like i'm gonna punch a baby and put it into the road or yeah yeah yeah

as opposed to uh keeping some stuff just for your journal and the therapist room interesting yeah i i think generally well it depends on what what the um the conversation is about um you know if you have your sort of most wild extreme thoughts like i don't know maybe those don't always have to be aired well like i'm gonna punch a baby and put it into the road or yeah yeah yeah