Rob Henderson

as opposed to uh keeping some stuff just for your journal and the therapist room interesting yeah i i think generally well it depends on what what the um the conversation is about um you know if you have your sort of most wild extreme thoughts like i don't know maybe those don't always have to be aired well like i'm gonna punch a baby and put it into the road or yeah yeah yeah

Yeah, well, but but I think like when it comes to issues around the relationship itself, that maybe there's a way I think like it's better to generally over communicate rather than to let things slide and let resentments build up.

Yeah, well, but but I think like when it comes to issues around the relationship itself, that maybe there's a way I think like it's better to generally over communicate rather than to let things slide and let resentments build up.

Yeah, well, but but I think like when it comes to issues around the relationship itself, that maybe there's a way I think like it's better to generally over communicate rather than to let things slide and let resentments build up.

And then it potentially explodes later into a serious argument that I mean, there's a way I think to over communicate and a kind of diplomatic, respectful way of just like, why do you do that? That upsets me. Stop doing that. You know, that's probably not the best way to go about it. But if you see something and you point it out in a gentle way.

And then it potentially explodes later into a serious argument that I mean, there's a way I think to over communicate and a kind of diplomatic, respectful way of just like, why do you do that? That upsets me. Stop doing that. You know, that's probably not the best way to go about it. But if you see something and you point it out in a gentle way.

And then it potentially explodes later into a serious argument that I mean, there's a way I think to over communicate and a kind of diplomatic, respectful way of just like, why do you do that? That upsets me. Stop doing that. You know, that's probably not the best way to go about it. But if you see something and you point it out in a gentle way.

And I think that is probably a better approach than just letting it all build up over time.

And I think that is probably a better approach than just letting it all build up over time.

And I think that is probably a better approach than just letting it all build up over time.

Yeah, yeah, that's an interesting one. Yeah, our mutual friend David Buss on this one was a fascinating paper here about how, you know, there's this idea, you know, basically, what are people looking for in a partner? Is it someone who just meets their relationship needs, you know, oh, like, here are my 10 list of demands for my partner. Oh, you meet nine out of the 10.

Yeah, yeah, that's an interesting one. Yeah, our mutual friend David Buss on this one was a fascinating paper here about how, you know, there's this idea, you know, basically, what are people looking for in a partner? Is it someone who just meets their relationship needs, you know, oh, like, here are my 10 list of demands for my partner. Oh, you meet nine out of the 10.

Yeah, yeah, that's an interesting one. Yeah, our mutual friend David Buss on this one was a fascinating paper here about how, you know, there's this idea, you know, basically, what are people looking for in a partner? Is it someone who just meets their relationship needs, you know, oh, like, here are my 10 list of demands for my partner. Oh, you meet nine out of the 10.

And this person meets 10 out of the 10. And so I'm going to go with a 10 out of 10, that kind of thing. you know, as if we're grading on some objective rubric. But that paper suggested that actually we more so grade potential partners on a curve where we are kind of putting together multiple things in our environment.

And this person meets 10 out of the 10. And so I'm going to go with a 10 out of 10, that kind of thing. you know, as if we're grading on some objective rubric. But that paper suggested that actually we more so grade potential partners on a curve where we are kind of putting together multiple things in our environment.

And this person meets 10 out of the 10. And so I'm going to go with a 10 out of 10, that kind of thing. you know, as if we're grading on some objective rubric. But that paper suggested that actually we more so grade potential partners on a curve where we are kind of putting together multiple things in our environment.

First, you know, the person that you're with, how do they stack up compared to partners that you could reasonably attract in your social environment? And what they found is that if you're

First, you know, the person that you're with, how do they stack up compared to partners that you could reasonably attract in your social environment? And what they found is that if you're

First, you know, the person that you're with, how do they stack up compared to partners that you could reasonably attract in your social environment? And what they found is that if you're

partner is basically you know better quality than the alternatives realistic alternatives around you then people tend to be happy if the person is kind of less attractive than a potential realistic alternatives around you people tend to be less satisfied and that was especially true for people who evaluated themselves as being more attractive than their own partner and so i think that's that that may be the most sort of dangerous situation here is if um