Robert Glazer

It wasn't about the budget.

All right.

So the person I'll say on the left person on the left, you know, grew up not feeling heard.

And they have this orientation of people need to be heard.

Right.

And it's very important to them to include all perspectives was their core value.

The person on the right grew up dirt poor and was trained to like save every penny and not waste.

And so what was happening in this thing is that the person on the left felt like this guy was not listening to her about, you know, the budget.

And he felt like she's just asking for more and more and more and not willing to.

So if they both knew this about themselves and they both knew this about the other person.

And it's not going to fix the problem, but it's really going to help knowing that, oh, wow, this is a danger area for us.

And I know this about her.

And so I'm going to listen really carefully to what she says.

And I'm going to say, I hear you.

But what I need from you to come back with is if you want more stuff, I need you to tell me the stuff that's not working and being willing to make some cuts.

So like this, I just think with awareness of ourselves and others, we can navigate around some of these things, all of these personality tests and other where they are most helpful is in interpersonal communication problems.

There are just certain styles and things that are going to, you know, butt heads on an issue.

And if you understand it, it doesn't make it go perfectly, but it allows you to like with some self-awareness, navigate that a little bit better.

I'm not going to convince this person that not listening to them is okay, right?

I'm just not.