Rochelle

Yeah.

On a personal level, I don't know.

So I feel like I've tried to think this out.

Like, what is my problem with this?

Do I have an ego problem?

Do I have a, you know, just missing out on, you know, I see my friends having grandkids and I feel like I've already grieved that part of it.

Like, okay, I missed out on also having a wedding too.

I missed out on a lot of things in life.

I think that's the smart go-to, but I feel like I've already kind of dealt with that.

Um, what about him as a, as how he's lived his life or his decision to not have children?

Um, I think it's been more like since he was 24.

He got out of the Marine Corps, which was the first thing that made me nervous because I know that he's not a generally, I wasn't either a generally ambitious person.

And, um, and he waffled for a long time with jobs that exacerbated injuries that he got from the Marine Corps.

And then, um, so he went and got like a VA rating, disability rating.

And, uh, so he brings in income, but he's still at 29, kind of trying to figure out what's his next move.

He wants to use his, he's one of these artsy fartsy creative, you know,

And he always was active all the way through high school, and he was a band nerd and yada, yada, and martial arts and all that.

And he's his longtime girlfriend who also—we all live communally here in San Diego because we either have roommates or we have each other as roommates because it's too expensive.

So him and his girlfriend live with us, and they help me take care of my dad and so on.

But anyways, I've just noticed that instead of going out and getting an actual job, he is—