Rox

Like this works every single time.

And it's so simple.

It's just called the lesser of two evils.

So this might be Rich speaking to me.

It might be me speaking to me.

Rather than trying to do one task, you give yourself a choice or your partner or parent gives you a choice between a few tasks.

and allows you to choose.

The ADHD brain will naturally avoid whatever it perceives as the most challenging, the most demotivating, the hardest task.

The one that you perceive as the easiest, which might not actually be the easiest because you could be like, do you want to unload the dishwasher or come up with a new app idea for ADHD?

I'll do B. It's not actually easiest.

But what that looks like is, say if Rich was to come and say to me,

do you want to unload the dishwasher?

My immediate bodily reaction is like, oh no, shut down.

Not now.

I know I need to do it because I'm in a partnership.

Yeah, do it soon.

It's not a pleasant experience for either of us.

But when he comes up to me and says, babe, a couple of things I'd love to do as a team, one of us needs to fold all the laundry and one needs to unload the dishwasher.

Because I want to avoid doing the laundry, I'll be like, I'll do the dishwasher.

And then suddenly I'm doing the dishwasher.